Rushed home for dinner with J couple. And listened to my mum's long long old stories again..
In MSN, emotions were filled. Things weren't going right. I have nth else to say or do anymore. My sister was feeling down too. N mei, is it becoz we are really linked? We are always feeling down almost at the same time. I could not find any ways to help her too. I've tried my best.
When two persons get along very well, they become close friends. Things might can better if both become a couple. But there's difference between friends and couples. There's no limitations nor restrictions towards friends. You wont get jealous or angry over the slightest thing he does. Being a couple, you will tend to get more demanding. When you are down, the first person you will find is your partner. If he's not there, you will be upset. You expect your partner to ans and reply all calls and msges. And when things are not right, you wont dare to voice out for fear that it will get worse. Is this right??
Communication is the most important thing. Open up and tell your partner how you really feel and let him understand you better.
This is what happened to me. My last relationship was lack of communication. Always thought that an apology and forgiveness can cover everything. But things were not that simple. It will just carry on piling up and they will be brought out to say when things got heated up. Steph and I had a tough time in the past too. Whenever we quarrel, she wont want to sit down and talk things out when she is angry. When things cooled down, she refused to talk as she dun wish to quarrel anymore. I didnt bother to carry on with it too. Once, twice, things will still be alright. But when every quarrels seem to be about the same things, she decided to talk things out. N thank god, with the help of my mum too. We finally understood each other's feelings, likes and dislikes. She hates it alot whenever I asked to clear things up too. But I just dun wish to have more problems piling up. Coz we are talking about long run here and not short run. There is still a long way to go. Things should not stop here. Becoz of a moment of happiness, you end up regretting in future. It's not worth it. Every couple should open up and be honest with each other. Though you know that things may not turn out well, do it. At least you are honest and your partner will still know what you are thinking. Dun hold back anything between each other.
To you: It's all going well for you. Hope that you know how to treasure what you have now and also think for your future. Is this the path you wish to lead all the way? I think that all my words were said yet nth have gone into ur ears. Hope you can straighten out your thoughts one day.
To sister: Mei, its really hurting to see you like that. You are just not in the right mood to talk about all these just now. I apologise for not being of any help. But I will still be there for you if you need me. Dun be so silly to think about those things. Think over what I've told you ba.